Ebony

Mom to Karter

Strategic Account Lead

Length of Maternity Leave: 5-months

Childcare: Daycare

What did you struggle with most about returning to work after having your kids?

I struggled with not being able to spend enough time with him. After my first week of returning to work, I realized I only had 1.5-2 hours of time with him in the evening, before he would fall asleep for the night.

What do you find difficult about being a working parent?

I find it difficult to have your house clean at all times! No matter how hard I try, there just aren’t enough hours in a work week to keep the house tidy.

What do you enjoy about being a working parent?

I enjoy being able to achieve my dreams, even after birthing a child. I always knew having children would slow me down, but I never wanted it to be my excuse for giving up on my dreams. One day they will leave the nest and have their own lives and families. I don’t want to look back and think “what if”.

After being back at work for some time, have your views about career and family changed?

Not at all. I feel supported at work and at home. I am blessed to work for a company that encourages employees to take the time they need to take care of their families. If anything, I feel more confident now that I can continue to prosper in my career, and raise a family.

Knowing what you know now, what’s one thing you wish you could go back in time and tell yourself as you were preparing to return to work or getting ramped up in your role?

Pump more often! I spent so much time allowing my little one to latch, and pumping only when I knew I had things coming up. I never thought to pump and freeze as much as possible, so that I would have a large supply when I return to work. I was literally pumping at work, for baby’s next day of milk. After being back at work for 2 months, I was over the demanding pumping schedule, and switched to formula.

What did you choose for childcare, and how has it been for your family?

Daycare

Pros - He is around more kids his age. He’s a more outgoing baby. He’s more eager to walk and be independent.

Cons - No one can love your baby like you do. We had an issue with our first daycare center choice, and switched him out two months later. Karter is so tired when he gets home, we don’t get to hang out as much!

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Be up front with your employer about your needs when returning to work. Some employers will allow you to work a flex schedule upon returning, to get adjusted back to work. Also, if you have help, take it! You can’t do it all, and you sometimes need help from families and friends. If your partner has paternity leave, use it. It gives him and baby much needed bonding time!