Stephanie

Mom to Kennedy

Licensing coordinator

Length of maternity leave: 4.5 months

Childcare: Nanny & Daycare

What did you struggle with most about returning to work after having your kids?

It was very hard with a “extra needs” child whom required four surgeries while I carried the insurance, talk about mom guilt. My daughter was changing daily in terms of her needs so it was hard for me to keep up, I would have so much worry on allowing others to try and take it on. I started slow with a temporary nanny then found a daycare that I loved. The care providers were so understanding of our situation and gave me all the assurance that they could handle it. I was so relieved!

What do you find difficult about being a working parent?

The lack of quality time with my first born with the additional time needed for her medical care and therapy. Also the guilt of knowing that I could not stay at home, mentally.

What do you enjoy about being a working parent?

I enjoy the fact that the time I do have with my little one is even more precious and fulfilling because it is limited. I am also very lucky to have the flexibility at work that is needed for my family.

After being back at work for some time, have your views about career and family changed?

Yes, I believe that we need to do what we think is best for ourselves (as parents) so we may be the best version of ourselves for our children. It is not that I didn’t know that before but I have a whole new understanding as a working mother who needs AND enjoys working to support my family.

Knowing what you know now, what’s one thing you wish you could go back in time and tell yourself as you were preparing to return to work or getting ramped up in your role?

That I can absolutely trust others to take care of my Baby. With a medical needs baby it is still possible to find the right care if you have trust! With trust and knowledge you can find your way!

What did you choose for childcare, and how has it been for your family?

Nanny and Daycare

Pros- I have the confidence that is needed in our situation for good and reliable care. I know she is in good hands even without my constant supervision.

Cons- we chose a care option close to our house but far from our work (both parents) so we have to be on schedule or it does not work. Our time with her is limited which is hard. Long days with a commute mean more guilt.

Anything else you'd like to share?

We had an unforeseen medical complication that threw my husband and I in a whirlwind of emotions. It took a very long time for the guilt of going back to work subside and a part of it never goes away. I also know that it is the only option for my right now mentally and financially. I don’t know what the future holds for my family or my career but I do know what we are doing today is what is right. I also know that if staying home becomes the right fit for my family, I will gladly do so. This is all about balance and I am certain I will find it.